i read a book recently about change, accepting it, learning how to live with the new life you have after it... how you dont realize while going thru the hardship of an end / beginning, looking back you will find those are the times you learned the biggest lessons.
I've gone through boat loads of change in the past couple years.. many hard lessons to learn and obstacles to overcome. sometimes it feels like punishment and i can become so angry thinking... why me?? --- as i suppose we all think at times. but more so than just the tough issues at hand i find myself frustrated with the judgement.
we all have struggles. we all go through moments of shame we wish no one would ever know about. we all have those times when we feel so small and vulnerable that all it takes is a feeling of disapproval and you could crumble into thousands of pieces.... or is that just me? the more i think about it.. how often is it that you actually hear the raw truth. the REAL. HARSH. NO BULLSHIT feelings and thoughts a person goes through at their worst.. and when you do... how many people in that persons day to day life have any idea?
that lady at the coffee shop who didnt look up and pushed by you.. the one who couldnt smile and looked lost and you felt frustrated and thought "how rude"... i wonder what her suffering is? maybe she's having a bad day.. maybe she just lost her father?
the guy at your office who's always being too polite.. almost annoying like. saying hi every morning. always having a great day. asking about your weekend, your kids.. often you think.. mind your bloody business would you?! maybe he goes home to an apartment alone and has no one to talk to until he comes to work the next day.. maybe his wife and children just left him... you'd never know would you... but i bet its easy to judge him and think, why is he so happy all the time? what's there to be happy about every morning at work?
i have struggled for years with the lack of sympathy, empathy, compassion in this world. its so much easier to step on another to climb up that ladder to the top, right. why develop concern for a stranger and put thought into their needs when we've all got our own struggles.... they'll figure it out.
it's far too easy to judge.. natural i think. so harsh. so cold. so unnecessary. but yet we all fall into the trap of assuming whatever makes it easiest to believe of a person.. just at simple glance, a small glimpse of a tiny detail of a persons life that probably means nothing anyway. but judge away...
oh look at how perfect she is, i bet she never has a bad day in her whole life. well at least that lady is fatter then i am.. no need to feel so bad then. i bet that guy has loads of money, must be nice not to have to stress about anything just buying anything you want all the time....
i dont know what i really expect to come of writing about this.. if nothing else maybe just evoke some type of thought and prevent even just one person from being so harsh the next time around..
often we have no real idea of the path others live..
why not be that person who...
smiles at strangers.
buys the next guy's coffee.
holds the door open.
helps the neighbor with their groceries.
compliments the cashier on her hair..
may not seem like much but what's it gonna hurt?
I've gone through boat loads of change in the past couple years.. many hard lessons to learn and obstacles to overcome. sometimes it feels like punishment and i can become so angry thinking... why me?? --- as i suppose we all think at times. but more so than just the tough issues at hand i find myself frustrated with the judgement.
we all have struggles. we all go through moments of shame we wish no one would ever know about. we all have those times when we feel so small and vulnerable that all it takes is a feeling of disapproval and you could crumble into thousands of pieces.... or is that just me? the more i think about it.. how often is it that you actually hear the raw truth. the REAL. HARSH. NO BULLSHIT feelings and thoughts a person goes through at their worst.. and when you do... how many people in that persons day to day life have any idea?
that lady at the coffee shop who didnt look up and pushed by you.. the one who couldnt smile and looked lost and you felt frustrated and thought "how rude"... i wonder what her suffering is? maybe she's having a bad day.. maybe she just lost her father?
the guy at your office who's always being too polite.. almost annoying like. saying hi every morning. always having a great day. asking about your weekend, your kids.. often you think.. mind your bloody business would you?! maybe he goes home to an apartment alone and has no one to talk to until he comes to work the next day.. maybe his wife and children just left him... you'd never know would you... but i bet its easy to judge him and think, why is he so happy all the time? what's there to be happy about every morning at work?
i have struggled for years with the lack of sympathy, empathy, compassion in this world. its so much easier to step on another to climb up that ladder to the top, right. why develop concern for a stranger and put thought into their needs when we've all got our own struggles.... they'll figure it out.
it's far too easy to judge.. natural i think. so harsh. so cold. so unnecessary. but yet we all fall into the trap of assuming whatever makes it easiest to believe of a person.. just at simple glance, a small glimpse of a tiny detail of a persons life that probably means nothing anyway. but judge away...
oh look at how perfect she is, i bet she never has a bad day in her whole life. well at least that lady is fatter then i am.. no need to feel so bad then. i bet that guy has loads of money, must be nice not to have to stress about anything just buying anything you want all the time....
i dont know what i really expect to come of writing about this.. if nothing else maybe just evoke some type of thought and prevent even just one person from being so harsh the next time around..
often we have no real idea of the path others live..
why not be that person who...
smiles at strangers.
buys the next guy's coffee.
holds the door open.
helps the neighbor with their groceries.
compliments the cashier on her hair..
may not seem like much but what's it gonna hurt?
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